How many body changes do women go through?

Us bad ass women go through quite a few natural body changes throughout our lives. So listen up beautiful ladies, we need to start accepting all the new bumps, creases, flabby and saggy bits, more or less hair on our body areas, extra or less curves and padding we’ve been gifted with 🎁. Now I’m not talking about all the hormonal stuff going on inside of us, because let’s face it, that’s a topic that needs its own blog!!!

We aren’t getting out of these changes, they are going to happen, so why do we fight them so much? 💪🏻 They are our map, like the rings of a tree, of our life adventures, we are the ones who have been gifted with a life that wasn’t cut short.

So, our first change is when we go from our cute little straight up and down child body through puberty to a woman’s body. We get the curves, the hairy bits and boobs 😲and we all get blessed with different shapes and sizes through this change. 👱🏻‍♀️🧍🏻‍♀️

Motherhood is our second, that’s if we choose this, and for some women our body can change after each birth. Some women might go back to their pre-pregnancy weight but their shape might have changed. So, the clothes you used to wear might not feel comfy or just not look right. We might also get some birth tattoos, stretch marks, to remember the journey. 🤰🏻👶🏻

The next change is when we transition through peri menopause and menopause. This transition brings with it big physical changes but are seen over a longer period of time. Some women can get a tummy on them they’ve never had before, while others stay the same there. We start to grey, get wrinkles and creases, where I seriously didn’t know you could have them. Things start to sag, get flabby and start pointing south, and for some of us we need to start lifting bits up to clean under them…..boob sweat…..ekkkkk. 😧 This pretty much continues until we transition to the other side. ⚰

Well, how the heck do we move through these physical changes with acceptance, positivity and love? First up, we stop looking and comparing ourselves to others. We are all unique, we literally cannot look or be the same as someone else. We are born with our own unique genius, path and perfect beauty, so start talking to yourself like you would your best friend or your children. If your friend or child started saying they were fat, ugly or dumb, would you agree with them and feed that narrative or would you tell them how you see them, their amazing authenticity and their own unique beauty? If you answered yes to that, then why the heck aren’t you treating yourself with the same respect? You are the most important person in your life…..yep, more important than anyone, because if you don’t see that and more importantly, feel that, then how do you expect to attract the best relationships, the best friendships into your life and be the best parent?

Stop looking for the latest and greatest anti wrinkle, firming lotion or the latest diet. It doesn’t matter how many creams you use, Botox or work you have done……….you will age, you won’t get out of it and it is a completely natural process. Stop feeding into the anti-aging narrative, it’s a multi billion dollar industry that preys on our insecurities. Stop telling mature people how beautiful and young they look for their age…….WTF……why do we need to look young for our age?????

Now, I can hear you saying…..how do I just start loving and accepting myself when I haven’t my entire life? For the most part, these beliefs about how we should look are a societal expectation, and yes, we can play a collective role in changing that unrealistic, superficial paradigm. It can also be a generational belief that is handed down each generation on how we should look, and it can also be a trauma response. If you have family who were absent in their loving, nurturing words and actions or were very verbal in how they thought you looked in comparison to societal expectations, then you will absolutely be responding to that trauma with a very negative self-image which can lead into other trauma responses throughout your life.

What’s the way forward to loving and accepting all the amazing body changes we experience throughout our lives? The first step is to resolve the traumas you experienced as a child, and yes we have all experienced something, from birth trauma and beyond. When we resolve our past traumas, we start to live the life we were meant to, to live authentically because that’s our birth right.

Like more info on how to resolve trauma at a deeper level that gets to the root of the problem? Follow Lynda at Amorah Healing on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/amorahhealing/ or The Menopause Warriors https://www.facebook.com/groups/2251429638499230

Contact Lynda on amorah.healing@gmail.com.

If you would like coaching on body acceptance and liberation then reach out to the amazing Christine Malkmus on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/christine.mancini.9 or join her Facebook group, Coming home to your body https://www.facebook.com/groups/3174007712832355 .